Finding Love in Relationships in Development of Self and Social Environment
Finding love in relationships these days seem next to impossible. It seems as every man and woman has been through the ringers and these people are not ready to give real love a chance. It gets worst. When you meet men, the first thing that seems to come out of many of their mouths is do you do threesome’s or they talk about porn. We want real love not superficial love that will lead to disaster.
What we must do first is establish our moral, standards, and values and uphold them. By doing so we can encourage other people to do what is right and take the steps to find real love also.
We as humans are fragile minded creatures. Often a relationship will begin with pleasures but it will too often end with bitterness and emotional chaos. We want to avoid this. Today, many men and women are finding comfort with strangers. They will often hop into a relationship and find the ending in disillusionment. Most of these men and women will wonder what in the world made them make such a choice that lead to this reaction.
The problem is obvious. Many people do not think before they act. We must learn to think. The problem gets deeper because the average person gives us a few minutes to make a choice, which in fact is a violation of our human rights. We want to avoid this. You have more than 15 seconds (average demand for response) to answer a question. So before you spring into something you will regret later, learn how to think before you act.
We have other problems. Many people start out relationships, fearing if they do not commit self now they will be alone and depressed later. These types of thinkers often end up alone and depressed because the relationship at the start is threatened by high-demands and peace is far behind them. What needs to occur is these thinkers need to establish and develop emotional strength.
You must learn to love self before you can love anyone else. When you feel comfortable being alone with you, you will feel comfortable being alone with someone else.
As people we are all related in some form or another. As people we have natural tendencies to need the other. Despite that many men and women resent needy people, the fact is these people themselves also are needy. They need social, self-environment structure to feel a sense of inner security and happiness.
Life is full of interweaved relationships. When a person is born they connect and start a relationship with their parents. They attend school and start relationships with friends, and then they begin intimate relationships, which in these days and times rarely stop with one. Thus, we see a world of needy people. We have a recourse however, and that is to decide what we truly need to make us happy. The only logical answer is establishing a relationship with you first and then worries about love later.
When you seek a loving relationship you will need to establish first, honesty, the ability to forgive, affection, understanding, compassion, respect for self and others, sense of humor, acceptance, etc. By establishing these qualities you will expect the same from your partner, which in short you will learn to pick a good mate suitable for you, rather than getting involved with someone under the notion that you will not be alone or depressed.
You want to recall any bad habits that could cost you your relationship. So, establish communication skills, honesty, and avoid being judgmental.
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