Human Behavior in Development of the Self and Social Environment
Humans survive merely upon healthy relating. Being able to interact with others is pure harmony. Human behavior is an ongoing process in which people of all cultures have to deal with throughout their entire life. The social self seldom dies due to a lack of life left in them. It simply withers away due to a lack of being able to understand the upkeep it takes in having a healthy relationship.
A relationship may be considered a living thing. It has needs and benefits. Many people are afraid to try. They don’t know the time; work, and caring that is involved in a relationship and too lazy to try. The social self is a human challenge that has many bold risks.
The problem with social self is during the years of growing up the thought of ones strength lied in ones independence. Society has always led people into believing they must make their own way in life. This is not so. Everyone depends upon others in some fashion and only when this is recognized can one say they have reached maturity. The need to relate to others is not a weakness or like of dependence. The human being is afraid of commitment in that it may destroy ones individual freedom. This has become a major problem in the development of the social self.
It is very true that people are afraid of being alone. Have you ever stopped and thought back that you were brought into this world alone and will have to leave the ones closest to you in death. In between being born and dying humans are given the chance to grow up and make their own personal decisions in life. Most people have the feeling of being alone their entire life. Learn to determine your choices in life where change and growth are involved.
If you by chance wonder into a bar, you may find millions of men and women searching for intimate love and never find it. You will have the chance of recognizing the hunter and the one being hunted. They prowl these bars day and night, even on cruises and vacations. Some find that being well groomed and scented for the ritual only send them home and alone. Others have their lives filled with the person they see on regular basis or sleep and live with. Even then one can feel isolated within that relationship.
Relating and love have been known to help make loneliness more bearable. One may come to the conclusion that the touch of a warm hand touching their life gives them the necessary courage to accept pain. Self-disclosure in commitment helps minimize isolation.
In the development of the social self, one must accept the full responsibility for their success or failure and emerge from the loneliness and come together in love. Never count on your instincts or falling deeply in love. Hope only lies within a serious relationship.
Life is full of patterns such as:
Motivations
Desire
Beliefs
Needs
Dreams
To know yourself is to understand your patterns. Humans require a lot of intensive care for their dependency. At the same time, human beings need to understand that their life span is one of the longest. So in saying this, it brings up the fact that humans are required to adapt to different types of relationships in order to fill their physical and emotional needs for companionship, growth and sexuality.
In order to bring another into your life you must be willing to give up your destructive gestures.
The need to always be right.
The need to always be first.
The need to be in control.
The need to be perfect.
The need to be loved by everyone.
The need to change others to benefit your needs.
The need to manipulate.
These gestures can be a challenge from which one may benefit or profit. Merely, the more humans realize they have a problem in relating, the greater their ability to loving another will increase.
New behaviors and changes will need to be put into place to make an irreversible relationship turn around and work out. Acknowledge the existence and take the proper steps in securing your relationship.
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